A person who is lithromantic is on the aromantic scale, not because they cannot have romantic feelings for another person, but because they do not want said feelings to be reciprocated.
In fact, if the feelings are visibly reciprocated, they often end up losing interest. Because of this, they rarely end up in, or stay, in romantic relationships.
Some are perfectly happy with just fantasizing about a romantic relationship, but never actually having the desire of one.
Origin of the term
Made up of the Greek word “lithos”, meaning “stone”, and romantic, because they are practically as romantic as a stone.
The term was coined by Tumblr user stopanthropomorphizingme (Ian) in 2016. “Ian” itself identifes as “stone”.
However, there are some claims that the term has existed much longer, even before the internet, but there is no evidence to be found.
Spread of the term
Today, the term is used interchangeably with “akoiromantic”, as some people claimed that “lithromantic” appropriated lesbian culture as an allusion to the “stone” sexual identity among “butch” lesbians.
“Lithromantics” have multiple different flags, but the most used one is a red, orange, yellow, white, black horizontal striped one, which is the same as the “lithosexual” one.
The opposite of “lithromantic” is considered to be “cupioromantic”, which refers to a person who is aromantic yet desires a romantic relationship.
You can find multiple “tests” online to check if you are “lithromantic”, for example on lovepanky.com. Not everyone is satisfied with their sexuality however, and in 2018 a question “How do I stop being lithromantic?” was posted on Q&A application Quora.
- Arcomantics Wiki – Lithromantic
- Herway – 12 Clear Signs You’re What’s Known As A Lithromantic